As a Medium, in the past, I often felt the urge to share connections from beyond while holding hope the one receiving would find value in the exchange. I later learned a very important lesson in answer to this question:
What if this ‘hope’, without establishing a personal value in our offer of Mediumship, is disrespectful to the whole of the experience?
There will be times when the messages we share burst forth from our heart without wanting or asking for compensation for what we share. But as a baseline, simply hoping someone will value our time, abilities and love inherent in the process, is disrespectful to self.
The energy of disappointment, frustration and upset I felt when the client described below chose not to compensate me for extensive work I did with him was an experience I brought on myself. If I couldn’t choose a value for my work, why would I be surprised that others mirrored the same? My realization after the following experience called me to realize, sharing Mediumship is far from a loving offer, if you don’t honour yourself in the process.
To hold a high vibration after a reading, for yourself, your client and those who share from the spirit world, you have to stop apologizing for charging a fee. You can choose what you wish, financial, reviews, a trade, professional services. Anything is better than nothing, in order to keep the vibration high.
Spirit wanted me to learn this lesson. Below is when the ‘ah ha’ moment came. I hope this helps you hold value in yourself, should you be struggling with charging for your readings.
The man who received this extraordinary message from his father reached out to request a Reading in which he described the agony he was feeling in being able to sense his father was near, but not being able to hear him.
Over the course of several days, I coached this young man to open his heart, create a light filled opening between himself and his father, and meditate with me in order to forge a connection.
Initially, the father in spirit held a closed stance but over the week he began to soften, especially when his son reached out through me, letting his father know that he trusted me to listen to all his father had to say.
After hearing from his son. The father in spirit shared the following detailed information. He told me:
- what he did for a living while on earth, with numerous specific tools used for his craft,
- outlined aspects of the extended family business
- shared his love of coffee from a beautiful copper pot like the image above
- allowed me to experience physical sensations to describe his illness
- And much more.
He then passed along these words for his beloved son.
I can hear you calling me, son,
I am right here with you
It is taking you longer to adjust
Than it is me
But I want you to trust
I am here
I am right here
I see you, son
With such pride in my heart
You are a hard worker
You never shirk your responsibilities
You have always been
The source of endless pride in me
What is it now
That has you hold back?
Reach out to me
And believe in yourself
We have much work left to do
You and I,
Our journey together
Is far from over
Capture that which you love
In the palms of your hands
Cradle them with love
Hold them close to your heart
Let your heart
That has always been bigger than life itself
Expand beyond the boundaries of life on earth
To include me here
Be good, My son
Let’s start today
To find each other again
~
Part of my work with this young man included time spent to encourage his own abilities to communicate with his father directly. The techniques outlined worked so well I noticed years later he advertised his skill as a Medium with great pride. I often wondered why it was, with such a seeming all around success in our communication, that he chose not to pay me for the extended time I spent with him or the Reading I shared. I asked for a donation, multiple times, but he chose to ignore that part of the deal. I was shocked, to be honest, and quite disappointed at the time.
I am sharing this not with any sort of bitterness but with appreciation.
In this man’s decision not to value the three days I spent with him sharing my ability to communicate with his father in his time of great loss and helping him to develop the ability to connect himself with the man he so greatly admired;
I learned to request payment before giving of my time.
We all have things to learn. My client learned he is a Medium. I learned self-respect.
What blessings there are to be found should you choose to receive them as such!
I hope you found comfort in his father’s words.
With love,
Catherine ~